By Pascha Rose Divorce changes your relationship status. But what it really changes — quietly, profoundly — is your identity. And that shift can feel disorienting in ways you didn’t expect. Most conversations about divorce focus on the visible pieces: custody schedules, financial restructuring, legal timelines, living arrangements. Those are important. They require attention and decision-making. But beneath all of that is something less discussed and often harder to name: W

By Pascha Rose One of the most exhausting parts of divorce isn’t always the grief or the conflict — it’s the constant decision-making. Big decisions. Small decisions. Decisions you didn’t expect to be making alone. During divorce, even simple choices can feel overwhelming. What used to be automatic suddenly requires thought, energy, and emotional bandwidth you may not have. If you find yourself frozen, irritable, or second-guessing every choice, you’re not broken. You’re like

By Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach One of the most surprising parts of divorce is the loneliness. Even when you’re surrounded by people. Even when friends check in. Even when you know  the divorce was  the right decision. There’s a specific kind of loneliness that comes with divorce — one that isn’t always about being alone, but about feeling unseen , unanchored , and disconnected from the life you once knew. Many clients tell Pascha, “I didn’t expect this to feel so isolating. ”

By Pascha Rose One of the most unsettling questions that can surface after divorce is surprisingly simple: Who am I now? Not as someone’s spouse. Not as part of a couple. Not through the roles you once held to keep the relationship functioning. Just you. Divorce doesn’t only change your relationship status — it often dismantles an identity you lived inside for years. And when that structure falls away, it can leave you feeling disoriented, unsure, or disconnected from yoursel

By Pascha Rose One of the quiet losses that often comes with divorce isn’t talked about enough: the loss of trust in yourself. Clients often say things like, “I don’t know how I ended up here,”  or “I don’t trust my judgment anymore.” And that loss of confidence can linger long after legal decisions are made or living arrangements change. Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship — it can shake your sense of inner authority. The voice that once guided you may feel muted, uncert

By Pascha Rose When the holidays end, there’s often a quiet emotional drop. The decorations come down. The gatherings stop. The calendar suddenly feels empty again. And if you’re navigating divorce, this post-holiday space can feel surprisingly heavy. During the holidays, you may have been running on momentum — pushing through emotions, showing up when needed, managing expectations, or simply getting through each day. Once it’s over, the feelings you held at bay can finally

By Pascha Rose Christmas is often wrapped in expectation. Expectation of joy. Expectation of togetherness. Expectation that things should look a certain way. And when you’re moving through divorce, those expectations can feel painfully out of reach. You may find yourself surrounded by lights, music, and traditions that once felt comforting — but now stir grief, confusion, or a quiet ache you can’t quite name. Even if your divorce was necessary, even if you feel relief in some

By Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach The holiday season is meant to be filled with warmth, connection, and celebration. Everywhere you look, there are messages about togetherness — families gathering, traditions continuing, love being shared around beautifully set tables. And when you’re going through divorce, those messages can feel less comforting and more painful. Clients often tell Pascha, “Everyone else seems joyful and bright, and I feel lost and heartbroken.” If this resonate

By Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach One of the quietest and most painful parts of divorce is the way it can fracture your confidence. Even the most capable, intelligent, emotionally aware people can find themselves questioning everything: “Am I making the right choices?” “Why do I doubt myself so much?” “How did I lose pieces of who I am along the way?” Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship — it can dismantle the structure that once held your identity, your daily rhythm, an

By Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach Divorce doesn’t just disrupt your plans — it disrupts your sense of self. Suddenly, the life you knew no longer exists in the same form. Roles shift. Routines disappear. The future becomes a question mark. Even your emotions feel unfamiliar. This level of instability can shake anyone, no matter how strong or capable they are. But here’s the part most people don’t realize: You can be going through immense change and still create a sense of interna

by Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach & Certified Family Law Specialist One of the most common things clients tell Pascha is: “I feel like I’m on a rollercoaster I didn’t sign up for.” One day you wake up steady, confident, ready to move forward. The next day you feel anxious, exhausted, or blindsided by emotions you can’t even name. This emotional whiplash isn’t a sign that you’re unstable or failing — it’s a very normal response to a major life transition. Divorce shakes every part

by Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach & Certified Family Law Specialist One of the hardest parts of divorce isn’t always the paperwork, or even the conflict — it’s the not knowing. Not knowing what the future will look like. Not knowing if you’ll be okay financially. Not knowing how your children will adjust. Not knowing who you are without this relationship. For many of Pascha’s clients, uncertainty feels heavier than the grief itself. They describe living in a kind of limbo — waiti

by Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach & Certified Family Law Specialist When a marriage ends, it’s not just the relationship that changes — it’s your entire sense of self. You might find yourself asking questions you haven’t thought about in years: “Who am I now?” “What do I even like?“ “What’s next for me?” Divorce can shake your identity to its core. For years, you may have defined yourself as a spouse, a partner, or part of a “we.” Suddenly, that definition no longer fits — and wh

by Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach & Certified Family Law Specialist When most people imagine divorce, they picture one of two extremes: total chaos or total grace. On one end is the messy divorce — full of conflict, pain, and confusion. On the other hand is the “perfect divorce,” where both people communicate easily, stay friends, and co-parent with harmony and maturity. But real life usually exists somewhere in between. In her coaching sessions, Pascha often meets people who fee

by Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach & Certified Family Law Specialist If there’s one area that brings both hope and heartache after divorce, it’s co-parenting.Parents want what’s best for their children — stability, safety, and love — but creating that in two separate homes can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions are still raw. Co-parenting isn’t just about dividing time or agreeing on logistics. It’s about building a new kind of partnership — one that prioritizes your chil

by Pascha Rose, Divorce Coach & Certified Family Law Specialist When divorce enters your life, it doesn’t just end a relationship — it often shakes the foundation of who you believe yourself to be. For many people, the hardest part isn’t signing the papers or dividing the assets. It’s the quiet, uncertain moments that follow. It’s lying awake at night wondering, “How did I end up here?”  or “Can I trust myself to make the right decisions again?” As a divorce coach, Pascha see

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